Subject: Winners vs Losers (and how to enjoy your life)
Over the years, I have come to realize the truth of the maxim “You are the average of the five people you most associate with”. As a result, I have dramatically cut down on the amount of bullshit people I spend time with and the amount of bullshit stuff I consume, listen, and read.
If you want to be a winner, you have to be constantly exposed to the winning mindset.
If you want to keep being a loser, then keep spending time with losers and listen to what mainstream society tells you.
The people you surround yourself with will shape your mindset and affect how you think.
Hanging around winners instills a winning mentality in you. This is becoming more apparent to me as I get older. This isn’t elitism, just plain facts.
I look back at the average folks I’ve distanced myself from and the winners I’ve learned from, and realize there is something special that differentiates them…
The ONE Defining Trait That Separates Winners From Losers
What’s the difference between people who achieve great things and those who remain ordinary their entire life?
You can immediately tell just from where and what they spend their resources (time, energy, money) on.
The former is internally focused, while the latter is externally focused.
Winners improve their life by focusing on the things they can exert control over. Losers focus on the outside world to distract/entertain themselves because they have nothing going on in their own.
When you meet a winner, he is interested in what he can do to improve his income/business/financial success. When you meet a loser, he is interested to know which friend of friend just got knocked up three months’ pregnant so he can gossip to Sally.
(A corollary to this is the producers versus consumers mindset I’ve discussed before.)
Winners possess the uncanny ability to block out all the toxic trash from the outside world and focus on themselves. They follow their own timeline that they set for themselves – not the arbitrary one that their family and friends expect them to follow.
Empty Vessels Make The Most Noise
This is a great proverb that holds so much truth.
Want a shortcut to discovering the stupidest person in the room? Just observe who speak the most or create the most fuss. Hahaha.
People with high IQ are often the exact opposite. But when they do speak, be sure to listen and absorb their gems of wisdom.
In the cryptocurrency discussion groups I have seen, the people who make the most noise are the worst traders/investors. Not surprisingly they give terrible advice and always end up complaining about losing money a few days later. The successful guys stay silent 98% of the time. And the 2% of the time when they do speak, you know it will be something insightful.
Why I NEVER, Ever, Try To Persuade/Convince Anyone
Back in the days when I was less enlightened, I used to spend hours debating politics with faceless strangers online.
I now know better.
Whether in business or dating, you should never try to persuade anyone.
You see, it is a paradox.
The less I try to convince people to become my clients, the more clients I have. Because I can spend my time to better serve the people who are interested to (or even dying to) work with me.
In my consulting business (both soccer draws betting as well as our Elite Investing Club), I receive dozens of emails every day. The emails are usually 500-words of rambling but the gist is like this:
“Diego, I love your work so much and you look like a good person. Can you please convince me why I should be your client?”
I simply reply: “I’m not here to convince you. You don’t have to trust me if you’re not comfortable. There are many others out there you can look for.”
100% of my clients who found me discovered me by themselves. I spend $0 on advertising and have no interest in sending Zuck more advertising dollars.
I don’t waste time trying to persuade anybody. And neither should you. That girl from Tinder trying to play hard to get? Ignore her, NEXT!
I guess that is what enlightened people call “abundance mentality”. This “take-it-or-leave-it” attitude is powerful.
Did Donald Trump beat Hillary Clinton by trying to persuade his haters? No, he won by doubling down and tripling down on his supporter base.
Focus on being the best version of yourself and let people either be attracted or repelled. Just look at this comment someone left that began with “While I very much dislike the alarmist and edgy tone throughout this site…”.
Ideas vs People
To be internally-focused you should be discussing ideas. It is easy to spot externally-focused people (who make up 90% of society anyway) as they are usually too absorbed in unproductive drama.
As the wonderful adage goes:
“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”
All around the world, people are protesting in the streets against politicians instead of working on internal solutions, following mindless trends/fads rather than building something for themselves…
Society suffers when nobody focuses on ideas and internal solutions anymore.
Take a different perspective today.