TRIGGER WARNING: This post will offend 85% of people who read it. Proceed at your own risk.
Nope, you did NOT read the title of this post wrongly. Nor did I left out any words or made a typo.
Let’s turn the conventional wisdom about how “people who choose not to reproduce are selfish” around 180 degrees.
I’m not exactly anti-human. Well, maybe I am. I might also be an emotionless sociopath.
But it’s more accurate to say I am anti-procreation.
Think before you breed. If there is only one message you take away from this article, let it be this.
We have been conditioned and culturally indoctrinated to think that we are hard-wired to reproduce. That’s what everyone does, isn’t it?
Few people even think twice or question the default path programmed for them by society. Grow up, get married, have 2.5 kids.
Come no, have a little self-awareness.
If you are childless, you are the odd one out. People ask ‘Why don’t you have kids?’. But nobody thought to ask them ‘Why do you CHOOSE to have kids?’, as though it is completely normal and only the reverse requires justification.
Pro-life people are nothing but pro-suffering. Plain and simple. I would actually respect them more if they are actually honest about their intentions.
They rather deny people access to abortion in order to feel good and holy about themselves. Never mind if the poor fetus has to suffer horrible parenting or serious abnormalities.
They tell you “children are a blessing” without giving two shits about all the suffering and overpopulation that already exist on Mother Earth.
Pro life people are pro suffering. Be honest!
— J.K. Diego (@jkdgo) January 17, 2017
Anyway, this is not a debate about abortion (because there is no case at all). This discussion goes much deeper than that. It’s about the whole fundamental idea that reproduction (a.k.a. replicating your shitty genes that you think are good enough to warrant passing down) should be a “natural” or “good” thing at all.
People who DO have kids are the most selfish people in the world, and procreation is the single most selfish act any human being can do.
Don’t hate the messenger. I’m only here to tell the truth.
Let’s look at the commonly cited reasons for procreation, and I’ll expose them for the selfish reasons they are.
I am proficient in many languages so I like to code switch. But my favorite is to code switch between Truth and Hard Truth.
— J.K. Diego (@jkdgo) January 17, 2017
What are the reasons to have kids?
A) The Blatantly Selfish
1) To carry on your family name/tradition (Asian favorite)
Listen dude, when you die you die. Nobody gives a shit about your family name. Who the hell do you think you are? Some Ancient China Emperor?
Try doing something great if you want your name to live on after your death.
2) Insurance against old age (Asian favorite)
I can’t decide whether to put this reason under the Selfish category or Stupid category.
The Selfish part is pretty self-evident, so I won’t waste my breath. Buy some insurance policies instead, you dumb fuck.
Let’s talk about the Stupid part. Firstly, do you know how much it costs to raise a child from birth to adulthood? From an investment and financial returns POV, it’s plain dumb. Secondly, can you guarantee they will be healthy, live well (not be hit by a major illness that requires YOU to take care of them for the rest of your life), and eventually be financially successful? Thirdly, even if your kids turn out well, what makes you think they will give two fucks about you when you’re old? I’d rather not take the chance.
3) Unique life experience
Still all about you, you, you. The unborn child doesn’t have a say whether it wants to come into existence or not. But you are totally fine with bringing a life into the world, all for the sake of experiencing your so-called once-in-a-lifetime experience?
If you’re after the experience of parenthood, I say go for it IF AND ONLY IF you’re confident you would be a great parent. But guess what? You can always adopt unwanted babies that are already born. No need for creating a life just to fulfill your own desire for life experience. More on adoption later.
Cleverly Stupidly Disguised Selfishness
1) “I want to nurture and bring up a child!”
Ah, nice try at gaining admiration as bystanders lavish praise at your virtues.
I’m not falling for it though. You’re selfish because the child doesn’t exist. Yet you’re creating a life just so you could fulfill your own “nurturing” instincts/desires. And get 1,000 likes on Instagram each time you post a picture of your cute little offspring.
2) To let my children experience the joy of existence
Hold on, they don’t exist yet. What you really mean is you want to create a life so you can have a play thing.
Let me ask you this – can you guarantee with 100% certainty that your kids will NOT be born with genetic defects, serious medical conditions, or otherwise have a shitty life?
No, you can’t.
Yet you rather take a chance at bringing a non-existent life into this world. Because it’s a fucking game of chance right?
Remember: the unborn child doesn’t even exist yet! It doesn’t have any say whether it wants to exist. NO CONSENT!
Religion is very insidious. It’s performed in such a crafty Machiavellian way that most people don’t realize. Ever wondered why religions preach that “children are a blessing”?
Organized religions have an agenda. They want people to have more kids. Especially if you belong to their group. That’s how they grow their religious following.
Step 1: Dictate that offspring of your followers shall be born into the religion. If not, ensure that their parents choose religion for their young ones before they possess self-awareness.
Step 2 (Optional): Impose sanctions (moral, legal, or otherwise) for leaving the religion.
There you go, How To Grow Your Organization 101.
C) The Utterly Stupid, Moronic And Brainless
1) Kids are a “gift” from heaven
2) Babies are sooo cute!
Yeah right, dumbfuck. Go work as a nursery teacher or a nanny. Your workplace will always be filled with cute kiddos. Your own baby isn’t going to stay a baby forever, you realize that right? It will eventually grow into an obnoxious teenager.
3) To save a failing marriage, spice up a boring marriage, force someone to marry you, or some variation.
Requires an article by itself to discuss. And then 5 follow-up articles about the stupid idea of marriage.
4) “I want to give my parents grandchildren!” (Asian favorite)
Wow, talk about letting others live your life for you. Complete inability to resist societal pressure. Loser.
5) It’s human nature!
You know what is human nature? To reproduce till you drop, just like animals in the wild. Go on and breed a dozen kids, please don’t stop at 2.5 because it’s not natural!
D) The Ultimate Sad
1) “I missed my abortion appointment.”
This is as sad as the next one.
2) “Everybody is doing it! I don’t want to be left out.” (read: someone else expects me to do it, so I’m going to do it)
As hilarious as it is, it’s not actually funny. Most people (85%) fall into this category, somewhat.
Most people simply live life by going with the flow (except for the highly intelligent).
They don’t do what they want. Instead, they do what they THINK they should want, or what others expect them to.
If you don’t want to fall into this sad category, you need to immediately bookmark this blog and read all my posts. Learn how to Live Free and forge your own path.
Now let’s see what are the (non-selfish) reasons to NOT have kids?
We already know the selfish reasons for not having kids (career, money, personal time etc). After all, society has characterized and stigmatized the voluntarily childless as selfish. How ironic.
Let me give you 3 non-selfish reasons instead.
I) Vast majority of people are simply NOT suited to be good parents
How many fucked up parents have you met whose their kids would be better off without such horrible parents?
How many screwed up people have you come across in life? (Statistically, most of them would go on to be parents.)
Being parents should be the exception rather than the norm. But of course society wants us to think that being parents should be the default and “natural” choice. They got it completely reversed!
II) Reduce human suffering
Too many people contribute to unnecessary human suffering by selfishly subjecting their offspring to increased risks of hereditary diseases and medical conditions. While life expectancy is on the rise, the number of years spent in poor health is also rising!
On a related note, the celebration of celebrities bearing children in later life is frankly disgusting. Have you read all the medical research on the risks? Paternal age is as vital as maternal age, by the way. There are plenty of devastating health risks that older fathers pass on.
In my uniquely asshole-ish opinion, older parents (having a child from your late 30s onward) are exceptionally ignorant and they are selfish assholes. It’s one thing to do it in your grandparent’s generation when medical science hadn’t warned them of the risks. You now know better, and ignorance is not an excuse. If you’re too stupid to read up and know better, then don’t pass on your low IQ genes.
The planet is already overpopulated and dying. We are not even taking good care of the people who are already alive.
BTW, technology will ensure that 50% of all jobs will vanish within the next few decades. New jobs created will be vastly insufficient. Unless you’re Golden Trump, your kids are likely to live in poverty.
What’s The Alternative?
One word – Adoption.
If you really love children, think about all the unwanted babies in the world (that are already born) that could use your help.
Think about all the orphans who could use your love and care. Provide a home for them.
If you can’t contemplate the radical idea of adoption, then you’re a selfish bastard and you just proved my title for this article 100% right.
Why the mindless obsession with bloodlines? Is your partner related to you by blood?
Why biological children? What’s the point? To have kids that look like you? Share your DNA/genome/shitty genetic material? All about YOU, isn’t it? Told ya you’re a selfish prick.
I don’t care how you try to justify. You can say you were born with a maternal/paternal instinct and you gotta do what you gotta do. But you’re still a narcissistic selfish scum who wants children that look like yourself. Just admit it. At least you’re being honest.
If you need to have children in order to live a fulfilling life, adoption is the way to go.
If you just need a companion, adopt a pet (not a kid).
Conclusion: Call me Anti-life, I don’t care.
Most people don’t consider the seriousness of having kids, they literally think it’s child’s play. This topic doesn’t receive the scrutiny it deserves, because society needs us to keep reproducing, consuming, and upholding consumerist culture.
I am anti-procreation. I am pro-liberty and my mission is to preach the message of freedom.
Similar to marriage, I only know of parents who regret having kids (even though in most instances, psychological research has shown that the human brain is really good at rationalizing bad choices).
Never heard a voluntarily childless person saying “I regret not having kids.”
Ditch the shackles society placed on you. Celebrate the freedom to think for yourself, make conscious choices, and not procreate.
Join the Voluntary Human Extinction Movement (VHEM).
I’ll see you in the next post.