How To Get Serious About Your Life, Smash All Your New Year’s Resolutions & DO WHAT YOU WANT
7 years ago I was living in a desert in India. For three weeks, what surrounded me in the vast barren land in Rajasthan was the splendor of golden sand dunes.
Now imagine, you have been transported to a spartan desert to start your life anew.
There’s no one else but camels.
You’re finally free from the 101 types of stupid societal norms to conform to.
You’ve full control to build the life of your dreams.
Well, for 3 weeks back in 2009 I experienced that sense of unparalleled freedom. It was a taste of what it means to “live free”.
Except that you’re not going to migrate to a fucking desert. Unless your life goals consist of living a life riding camels and nothing else.
Fleeing modern society in search of freedom is not that great an exaggeration.
In Japan, people are staging their own disappearance to find freedom.
In many Asian societies influenced by traditional Confucianism — social values, institutions, and ideals are literally shackles around people.
When institutional forces are too strong for the average person to resist, SAD things happen.
People in society are not humans, they are merely there to make up the numbers and fill in the gaps.
People are merely tools, with no individual identity of their own, made use by society to reinforce the status quo and group-think that have been passed down the generations.
“Do what you want” becomes easier said than done.
Back to the Japan story, this is what’s happening. It’s an absolutely chilling story. They call it Japan’s “evaporating people”.
From a recent NY Post article:
“Since the mid-1990s, it’s estimated that at least 100,000 Japanese men and women vanish annually. They are the architects of their own disappearances, banishing themselves over indignities large and small: divorce, debt, job loss, failing an exam.”
The root cause here is shame.
People are shamed into conformity. And if they are unable to conform, the feelings of guilt and shame are so overwhelming that they rather fast track toward death than discover their own way.
“The evaporated live in tiny, squalid hotel rooms, often without internet or private toilets… You see people in the street, but they have already ceased to exist…
“Whatever shame motivates a Japanese citizen to vanish, it’s no less painful than the boomerang effect on their families — who, in turn, are so shamed by having a missing relative that they usually won’t report it to the police.”
What the actual fuck.
The articles goes on to say: “Japanese culture also emphasizes uniformity, the importance of the group over the individual. ‘You must hit the nail that stands out’ is a Japanese maxim, and for those who can’t, or won’t, fit into society, adhere to its strict cultural norms and near-religious devotion to work, to vanish is to find freedom of a sort.”
The ONE thing To Tell Yourself If You Want To Finally Live The Life You Want
There isn’t time for bullshit so I’ll go straight to the point. If you’re sick and tired of repeating the same old New Year’s Resolutions every 365 days, you better make sure this is the final time.
Make 2017 your bitch — Get serious about your life and Do What You Want.
I’ve never been a big fan of motivational speakers or self-help books. That industry is a billion-dollar worth of excrement.
What we need to truly succeed are ACTIONABLE STEPS. Not some lame, non-productive, feel-good mental masturbation crap. If that’s what you want, you can easily find it at your nearest religious service.
To get over your mental barriers that are preventing you from living the life you truly deserve, there is one particular mindset you need to internalize:
“Nobody gives a shit what happens to you.”
Print this sentence out and paste it somewhere prominent where you will see it every day. Paste it above your mirror, on your wall, or save it as your cell phone wallpaper.
This is the ONE SENTENCE you need to absolutely keep in mind.
Nobody Gives a Shit What Happens to You.
What does it mean?
It means you need to take ownership of your life — take full responsibility over everything that’s going on in your life.
No more excuses.
Since nobody gives a damn about what’s gonna happen to you, you’re free from “their” judgments.
You only have yourself to answer to.
It’s very simple yet very profound. And I’ve learned that this is the key to getting serious about your life, accomplishing your goals, and doing what you want.
It’s only when you realize that you came to this world alone and WILL leave this world alone, when it dawns on you that you don’t have to give a single fuck about what anyone else thinks.
This is how to GET SERIOUS about your life, your goals, and everything you ever wanted to accomplish.
Look, if you’re always living in the shadows of others, it’s a very convenient way to blame all your failures on them.
You wanted to start a business? Oh, but your parents/friends/relatives/society told you to become a dentist.
THEREFORE IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT THAT YOU AREN’T LIVING THE LIFE YOU WANT, AMIRIGHT?!?
You wanted a ripped body? Oh, but your peers are pressuring you into eating junk food and watching Netflix with them every day.
THEREFORE IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT IF YOU CAN’T ACHIEVE WHAT YOU WANT, AMIRIGHT?!?
You see where I’m going? It’s always easy to blame others. And deep down you want to have the safety net of having others to blame.
Always easier to follow the herd and get lost together, than to forge your own path.
Alright, imagine this.
You’re out for dinner and some drinks with a couple of old friends from high school that you haven’t met in two years.
At the bar/restaurant, a cute waitress comes along. She’s hot, your type of girl, and obviously interested in you.
- Worry about what your friends think?
- Worry about what her male colleague who’s standing next to her think?
- Worry about what the group of ladies at the adjacent table thinks?
Or do you just:
4. Give zero fucks and do what you want (i.e. chat her up and get her number in front of whoever is watching).
You already know the answer.
The people in statements (1), (2), (3) don’t give a crap about what happens to you. You only owe it to yourself to do what you want to do.
Here’s a tip: Get some of these Zero Fucks coins so the next time such a scenario occurs, you can give them out like Halloween candies.
I love giving them out to pathetic people who think I should give any fucks about what THEY think.
In order to be free, you need to let go of other people’s judgements, and with that you’re letting go of the shackles that society has placed on you (without consent) since birth.
The shackles that are used to rein you in.
To keep you forever-average.
To prevent you from fulfilling your dreams, becoming phenomenal, and living the life you really want.
Too many people have gotten used to life with these shackles. After all, they have always been shackled as early as they remember. It’s a normal state of affair — almost second nature. SAD!
Ask yourself, what are the goals that you keep failing at?
Is to finally become fit?
But yet you can’t bring yourself to the gym because you’re fearful of other people’s judgmental stares?
Well, remember: NOBODY GIVES A SHIT WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU.
Nobody is actually looking at you. Even if they do, they can’t be bothered about you because they have too many things of their own to deal with.
Here’s me being a douchebag.
Funny enough, the dudes who call other guys “douchebags” for posting shirtless selfies are usually losers who never dare to post one of their own. They’re jealous when they see fit guys (rare as hell in today’s Generation Loser).
Ironically, the no-life obsessed gym-rat-bodybuilder-type will come along and call me “pencil neck” or “do you even lift, brah?”
Do I give a fuck what you think, brah? Here’s a ZERO FUCKS coin for you.
Hmm maybe your Number 1 Goal is to build your own business, stop living the life of a Consumer Sheep and get wealthy?
But yet you can’t bring yourself to do it because you’re AFRAID of what your family would think? What your friends would think? AFRAID to fail, maybe?
Well, remember: NOBODY GIVES A SHIT WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU.
Nobody owes you anything. It’s all on you.
Or maybe your biggest goal in the New Year is to finally get laid after 20 years of involuntary celibacy?
But you’re afraid of… what??? I don’t even know man. People these days are weird AF.
True story: A few months ago, I met up with an old friend. I haven’t seen him for too long, I didn’t realize that he’s a typical brainwashed dude who is shackled by society’s chains so tightly, he may as well be a BDSM practitioner.
He was absolutely MORTIFIED when he discovered I was on Tinder. LOL.
I’m not sure if ‘mortified’ is strong enough a word. He was literally afraid of other people around us seeing me swipe chicks on my phone. It wasn’t even him that was swiping. He was just fearful of being associated with a “creep”.
IN REALITY — He’s too afraid to admit to himself that he wants to get laid, and assumes everyone else is afraid like him.
Needless to say, you should avoid “friends” who doesn’t want to see you unshackled. What’s that saying, again?
MISERY LOVES COMPANY!
Just remember this and you will be fine:
Nobody gives a shit what happens to you, and you shouldn’t be giving a shit about people and things that stand in the way of achieving your goals.
You have my permission to Give Zero Fucks about everyone else and just smash your 2017 New Year’s Resolutions.
Once you realize that “normal” people are full of fear and don’t actually have it good, you will embrace being weird.
Normal people are the people who joke about failing the same resolutions for the 8th year in a row.
If you’re reading this, you know it’s NOT funny and NOTHING to laugh at.
Go be weird — and DO WHAT YOU WANT. We don’t have time to give any fucks about them.
I’ll see you in the next post.